For the final issue of this year’s The Baron, I want to talk about the ever-elusive exploit of sexual escapades: butt sex. Despite all of the stigma surrounding it, anal sex can be fun for everyone involved; you just have to know what you’re doing.
First and foremost, lube it up! No matter how turned on you are about the prospect of putting things in your butt., the anal cavity does not lubricate itself like a vagina does. It tears much more easily, so never ever go in dry; you’re just asking for trouble. Silicone lubricant is great to use for anal sex because it lasts longer and is more durable than water-based lube, but be careful because it can degrade condoms.
Second, know your anatomy. There are very sensitive nerve endings on your anus, so it will feel good to touch it without even putting anything inside (think rim jobs). For participants of the male persuasion (and remember, it goes both ways fellas!), the prostate is essentially the male equivalent of the G-spot and it can be accessed through your butt. Massaging a guy’s prostate the right way will lead to a really intense orgasm. Putting things up there doesn’t sound too bad now, eh?
Never go a**-to-mouth: Your butt-hole has very different bacteria than your mouth or vagina, so keep everything separate to avoid infection. If you’re using condoms, switch it up! Or, if you’re going bareback, be sure to wash with soap and water before changing orifices. Remember, for folks who like to go au naturale, the inside of your buttocks can tear easily and tears make it especially easy to contract sexually transmitted infections, so make sure you and your partner get checked for STIs; play it clean and safe!
Most importantly, remember that anal sex is for everyone. There are stigmas attached to anal sex, but it’s not just for gay men! Sexuality is about who you do, not what you do. Everyone has a butt and everyone has the potential to enjoy a little anal play. If you weren’t meant to enjoy it, why would it feel so good? Don’t let homophobia or ridiculous ideas about what straight people do hold you back!
